How to Recognize Reality and Make a Change

Let’s face it; sometimes reality just isn’t that great.  Whatever circumstance you may be in, you need to acknowledge the fact that you’re there.  Read on for advice on how to see, own, solve, and change the economic hardship in your life.

Stop Seeing Yourself as the Victim

In life, serious disappointments are bitter pills to swallow. Many of us have endured significant economic sufferings—from downsizing and outright business failures to mortgage crises and investment losses. Few of us have escaped unaffected.

It may be tempting to see yourself as an unfortunate victim, but this line of thinking is pointless. When you assign yourself the role of victim, you deplete the energy you need to fight back.

Make a choice by asking yourself these questions:

Are you ready to take steps to remedy the situation? 

Do you want to remain stuck? 

Survival requires us to move on. The problem with this is that we’re profoundly affected by loss. It drains our physical and emotional reserves, and it can contaminate our thought processes. Instead of optimism about the future, we become prone to negative thinking that includes doubts and fears.

Some people are more resilient, bouncing back quickly. Others struggle to cope with the changes forced upon them.  That’s where MEK Solutions can help.  Acknowledging reality is one thing.  Choosing to see it differently so you can change it requires courage and imagination. 

So What Can You Change?

You can change your thinking, beliefs, and actions including your self-talk.

Here’s the hard part: Doing something differently usually involves processes you will dislike.

Embracing the reality of leaving your comfort zone may seem like an excruciating prospect. You’ll need to shed your protective cocoon and open yourself up to possibly more rejection and loss. Cocoons are merely illusions of safety.

You can’t land another job unless you’re brave enough to apply. You can’t benefit from retraining until you sign up for relevant programs or classes. You cannot reach your desired goal without shedding your old skin and learning new skills.  Make your first change by contacting us here: http://on.fb.me/ZLo4qs

Your Aha! Moment

When you’re mired in a difficult situation, ask yourself whether you want to be “right” or open to finding a breakthrough solution. Instead of being defensive and asserting your point of view, ask questions and seek win-win possibilities.

Achieving a breakthrough means leaving the past behind. Old actions and attitudes may have worked a decade ago, but it’s time to consider new ones. Replace your victim state of mind with a willingness to explore a new reality, and imagine your part in it. Recognize what you can and cannot change, and develop a realistic action plan.  Call MEK Solutions (814.881.5205) to help develop that plan.

Stay in the Game

We often come up with excuses and blame others when problems and conflicts arise, giving ourselves subconscious permission to feel victimized. It’s much harder to accept harsh realities and take personal responsibility.

In The Oz Principle: Getting Results through Individual and Organizational Accountability, Roger Connors, Tom Smith, and Craig Hickman identify four critical steps to recovering from a setback:

See It. Recognize and acknowledge the full reality of a situation.

Own It.  Accept full responsibility for your current experiences and realities.

Solve It. Change these realities by identifying solutions (many of which you’ve never previously considered)

4. Do It. Summon the commitment and courage to follow through with these solutions, even when they force you to take risks.

“Ultimately, we alone determine the course of our lives and the measure of happiness we achieve,” they write. It’s impossible to change reality and create new possibilities if you refuse to accept responsibility for your experiences. Accountability contributes to lasting success.

Next time you’re facing a rough situation, see it, own, it, solve it and then do it. Work with a professional coach or mentor if you continue to feel stuck and cannot take consistent action. Above all, allow yourself to overcome any predicament you may face.  Submit a query to download MEK’s 5 part course by clicking the link: http://mekcoaching.com/

How to Recognize Reality and Make a Change